The Bizarre Marriage of Mary Tallman Losee

Mary Losee – Seeley Peck Wedding

Story: Her connection to Seeley was perhaps through an ad for a companion or from her Newton relatives who lived in Junius near Phelps.  Such practices were common in the 1800’s for widowers and lonely bachelors.  Late summer or early fall of 1879, she’d begun correspondence that consisted of twenty-seven letters between them.  In her letters she asked for suitable compensation because her sole income consisted of a pension from loss of her husband John in the Civil War.  If she remarried she would be subject to forfeit the pension.  Of the letters eleven contained enough financial arrangements to satisfy her into marrying Seeley.  The wedding took place on 9 March 1880 at the home of her sister Ruth Fenner on E 6th Street in Jamestown.  The ceremony was performed by Rev. Emory Jones of the Methodist Episcopal Church.  It’s known that her sister Ruth, her husband James and another sister Charlotte Tallman attended.  They left immediately following the ceremony for his farm near Phelps.  Shortly after returning from the wedding, they went into Phelps accompanied by her uncle William H. Newton and William Vandemark to draw up a Will by Attorney Spence in Phelps.  William Vandemark was named as Administrator and William Newton was witness.  The following year her Aunt, Jane Ann Newton (William’s older sister) was to marry her third husband William Anson Collamer of Waterloo, New York.  Apparently the Tallman’s were aware of it, and Mary invited them to be married at their residence in Phelps.  The wedding took place on 2 June 1881, officiated by Rev. M. Wheeler of the Methodist Episcopal Church.  Now the bizarre part, what happens next and of course no one except Mary and Seeley know the facts.  He committed suicide by hanging himself June 6th four days after Jane’s marriage.  She of course immediately applied for her portion of the Estate, but, was also immediately sued by William Vandemark for what he stated as her abuse of Seeley causing him to commit suicide.  I assume, William being the sole relative and executor wanted the Estate.  A newspaper article at the time stated a note was left saying “he had too much trouble as an old man and had better die”.  The suit had continuance until May of 1883 when Judge Charles Dwight awarded in favor of Mary the plaintiff.  William chose to appeal the case which eventually wound up in the New York Court of Appeals under the title Mary L. Losee vs William Vandemark.  On April 14, 1885 the court upheld the award in favor of Mary.  The case has since been used numerous times as a reference in similar legal circumstances.

Authors notes: From real-estate transfers I had known for a number of years about Mary being married to a “Peck”, but, until Feb of 2016, who he was, remained a mystery.  It also ties together the story of a quilt passed from Ruth ‘Tallman’ Fenner to her daughter Mary to my parents that had belonged to Spiddy ‘Vandermark’ as my parents had no idea who Spiddy was.  Mary Peck eventually moved back and lived with Ruth until she was committed to a home as incompetent.

First the background information needs to be provided in order to start this bizarre story.  Mary Tallman married her childhood sweetheart from Dutchess County John J. Losee and settled on a farm in Chautauqua County, New York.  John, was a volunteer in the Union Army, and like tens of thousands of others would lose his life in the conflict.  Mary had a farm near Laona in the Town of Pomfret, her brother James worked it until his marriage to Martha Vastbinder in 1872.  She then had a hired hand until she sold it to her brother in 1885.

Seely/Seeley Peck was born in Connecticut and settled on a farm near Phelps, in Ontario County, New York, near the head of Lake Seneca.  He was married 17 Mar 1842 to Experience “Spiddy” Vandemark daughter of William Vandemark of Phelps who died August 18, 1871; they had one daughter Mary “Libbe” E. (named after his sister) b. 1846 she died December 8, 1878.

References:

The Buffalo Evening News, Friday, May 25, 1883, – The Ovid Independent, Monday, June 6, 1881, – Waterloo Observer, Wednesday, June 22, 1881, – Waterloo Observer, Wednesday, March 25, 1885

Copies of the testimony and eleven letters admitted into evidence from the NY State Library & Archives in Albany.

William Henry Newton b. ca. 1818 was a farmer living near Junius, NY.  He was the youngest of 11 children by David & Charlotte (Wooley) Newton and brother of Sally Ann Tallman and Jane Ann Collamer.

Rev. Emory C. Jones 1833-1886 buried in Lakeview Cemetery, Jamestown

Rev. Martin Wheeler 1818-1892 buried Resthaven Cemetery, Phelps

NOTES:

The key evidence was EXHIBIT No. 2 the letter dated Oct. 7, 1879, Phelps, that is partially detailed in the Newspaper clipping above.  He described his fair value worth and what he would bequeath to her.  The other key pieces were the testimonies made by Charlotte Tallman and William Newton.

Collamer’s were farmers and neighbors of Newton’s near Junius. (1)

Phelps, Junius & Waterloo sit with a triangular area, all within about 10 miles of each other.

William Henry Newton died between Aug 1894 and April 1895 his wife was Julia Ann Burnett Aug.1820-15 May 1908.

Personally, the most interesting aspects of these letters are the bits of information of what’s happening in the time period.  In each of hers, she always asks about her maternal relatives (both Newton & Collamer (1)) making the quote “No kindred is to me as my Mother’s.”  Reference’s to seasons, apparently 1879 was a dry year, there’s mention of crops and dairying.  The Nov 4th letter was election day; winter may be coming early with 2-3 inches of snow.  She mentions the “6-year Panic” 1873-1879 may be coming to an end; about her own small farm and possibly renting or selling it.

  • (1) 3 Newton girls and 1 Newton boy married into Collamer’s and Tallman’s: Anor, Jane Ann, Sarah Ann and Abraham.